Living Life to the Fullest

.attend wedding in intramuros at 0900H... another wedding, same day... 1500 at QC... gimik nyt with the entourage till 2200H... need to exit fast... travel to bataan midnight... will climb mt. tarac early morning.

"Di ko kaya ang ginagawa nyo sir,
Pagod na tayo d2 sa kasal,
akyat pa kayo ng bundok bukas?
Grabe!"
My reply: Hehehe, live your life to the fullest.

...0830H training in security till 1130H, no break.... 1330H advance fire fighting till 1630H, no break... 1800H project making... 1900H special lesson... 2130H meeting with group leader... 2230H watch Spartacus with cadets.

Miko: "Sinong gustong gumawa nitong Breathing Aparatus Control Board? Saka itong anti-terrorist checklist?"
Cadet1: Kami Miks.
Cadet2: Miks, kami na lang!
Cadet3: Sir, kami kulang pa. Dapat kami ang gumawa!
Training Officer 1: Hala Sir Miko, anong ginawa mo sa mga kadete mo?! Bakit nag-aagawan ng trabaho? Sa department namin, nagtuturuan at nagpapasahan.
Cadet1: Nahawa kami ke Miko, W... Workaholic!
Miko: Xempre, living life to the fullest.

Work and Play in Palawan and Boracay in May. Attend Wedding in Ilo-ilo and join Multi-level Marketing in June. Vacation in Nueva Vizcaya or/and Cagayan in July. Trip to Pangasinan and/or Zambales in August. Finish design and construction of interior of own room and the family entertainment room in September.


... work.

play.

earn.

design.

date.

rinse.

repeat...


Papa: Hindi ka napapagod 'nak? Para kang pating. galaw ka ng galaw...
Miko: Kaya nga 'pa. Para akong pating, mamatay ako pag huminto akong gumalaw.

Colleague: You need to find your anchor, or anything that can make you grounded. Mag-asawa ka na kaya?
Miko: No way!!! Marami pa akong gagawin!

Boss1: Miko-san. We like very much your contribution in the program. We believe that without you, it might collapse. But always remember, first priority... your health. We very much fear you overwork yourself. Please rest whenever needed. Understand?
Miko: Wakaremasu!

I'm thinking about it now. Maybe I do move around alot. That it's about time to find that relationship that can (at least in a way) keep my feet grounded. Or that badly needed rest. Maybe, all of them are right...

But if I stop, I won't feel i'm living. What I learned keeps me experiencing and creating. And the result of what I'm doing keeps me addicted. As my experience grows, so does my perspective, and meaning. As the places i've been to expanded, so my acquaintances grow numerous - including those moments I share with them in between.

In my work, I do not aim to be the Best, I aim to be the Only one who can do it. In my family and friends I do not aim to be with them Everytime, but to be there in that very particular time when no one is around and they badly need someone. I do not simply want to leave this world with a Family, I aim to leave it with a Legacy.

And that, for me, is living life to the fullest. Spending my life on activities that can outlast it.

After 3 Years!

Wow!

Kung hindi dahil kay ericthespaceoutjunkie, hindi ko na uli mabibisita ang blog na to. i even forgot it existed. waahahah.

Now, what happened since I posted my Islander tsinelas??

Well, my Zero Dating for One Year Goal was successfully completed and extended till now (almost three years) T_T

I found out, pag nagzero ka sa lovelife, magzo-zoom ang career. And that was what happened. I got offered a project that sent me to Japan for training and to have a post-graduate studies in Solent University (UK). Hehehe.

I got my B- sa lakbayan.net

I organized a non-profit org that assisted two orphanage one school.

Nah, i'm not bragging, I'm just saying I've been busy.

In fact, I was sssooo busy I've been branded "superman" by three different person (one friend, one boss and one potential date).

And since I'm already bragging (though I said I'm not), hehehe, i will post here how he described me:

"Days with Superman

Who? Yes Superman. I just met him. I know it's mythical to say. But even with my own eyes and experience I just knew him. He is unbelievably extra ordinary, mysterious, and rational. For some period in my life he flew right into my face to say "hi". That he is just around. Watching. Probably waiting? Well Clark Kent is unnoticeable right? Yes at first he is just a geeky Clark Kent that my eyes never lose a wink to linger. But he proved to me that there is more to Clark Kent. That he has great power. I never knew that. And as we know power comes with great responsibility. From then I never imagine putting my picture by the side of someone like Superman. It's because he's everybody's Superman. So who am I to have a constant space in his responsibility?

I'm just an ordinary citizen like Lois Lane. But far from being more than a bird and more than a plane, I know it's not easy to be him. Out of the hundreds of people he serve, Lois Lane just want to know if Superman's kryptonite will be on hand as key. And out of all the extra ordinary traits he has, would that include an extra ordinary feeling? He was never that normal, never was perfect, never was the ideal, never expected. I don't know if I should say if there's still "to be continued" at the next page of this comic book. But who knows. Lois lane will still be Lois lane.. will be just .. yes .. here .. waving for Superman. Waiting to land again right in front of my eyes... And smile.. "

Hehehehe, cheesy noh? Since he already claimed my powers and responsibility, I was inspired... To share what I experienced.

Thus, henceforth, pipilitin kong ma-update ang blog na to, at least twice and thrice a month. n_n

Ang Islander Kong Tsinelas

A couple of weeks ago, pumasok ako sa isang coffee shop to pass the time (dahil i'm waiting na matapos ang pinapagawa kong corporate-give-aways). Nag-i-scan ako sa journal ko to get inspiration for blog to post.

I wear my usual thing. shirt, shorts and slippers. At dahil probinxa naman, hindi ko ine-expect na may mga customer na dala ang arrogance of most Big City Dwellers.

Pag pasok ko, tinignan ako ng dalawang badets (bading na teen-ager) mula ulo hanggang paa. and from my perepheral vision, nakita kong tumaas ang kilay nila, maybe wondering anong ginagawa ko sa loob ng coffee shop. Baka inisip nila na magso-solicit ako or something.

"kumusta naman ang Islander," i heard one of them said, sabay tawa ng dalawang baklita sa couch.

gusto ko rin sanang matawa non. hahaha. suot ko ang Islander kong tsinelas (my other pair of slippers are only used for swimming). at kung iku-kumpara nga ako sa dalawang badet na naka-havaianas, muka talaga akong gusgusin.

hindi ko alam kung magkano ang isang pares ng havaianas. i never bothered to ask. i know i can afford it. but why should i?

Keep one small independent corner of your mind
that calls nonsense by its right name,
that holds to the things you know to be true,
and that laughs at pretentiousness
even when it is exciting and fashionable with your contemporaries.
-------------John Gardner, Commence Address to Sidwell Friends School

sa konting barya na natitipid ko by choosing Islander over Havianas, or Carter Briefs over Bench. or kung ano-ano pang bagay for consumption, is the same money i spend for things that truly matters.

Maraming taong bumibili para sa gutom nilang Ego. Busog naman ang Ego ko (halata naman sa kayabangan ko, hahaha), kaya ibang bagay ang pinagkakagastusan ko.

Gumastos ako ng tuition para sa isang subject na hindi required pero gusto ko lang matutunan (siempre, continuous ang gastos dahil pumapasok ako). Gumastos ako para makapunta sa isang lugar na hindi ko pa napupuntahan (to add to my Tour Belt). Ngaun, may pinag-iipunan ako para i-donate sa CRIBs Foundation, isang bahay ampunan (kung sinong interested jan, kontakin ako, hehehe).

Again, hindi masama na magsuot ng havaianas, o magpagupit sa bench fixx instead sa f-salon. ang point ko lang, you have a deeper obligation to yourself to balance the material aspect with something more profound. and we all have at least a little social responsibility.

hala.

anu ba yan. kung ano-ano na ang na-ikwento ko dahil sa Islander kong tsinelas. Pero it really takes a lot of Kapal ng mukha at Tibay ng pagkatao to wear it in Starbucks (which i did last january 4, hahaha).

Kapal ng Orig. Tibay ng Orig. (uhm, makakakuha kaya ako ng endorsement revenue d2? hehehe).

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oi, seryoso ung alok ko sa Cribs Foundation ha. sinong gustong magparticipate, message me. n_n

The Party Animal

Hindi ako magra-rant. At hindi rin ako magse-sermon. n_n

It will be just my personal, biased, preference for the person i'm going to date (and my 2x a week blog quota).

Dahil sa nalalapit na pagtatapos ng "Zero Dating for One Year Goal" ko, i can't help not to scan dating sites (g4m, downelink, friendster, multiply - jan lang ako may account) of possible guys to date. hahaha. A large number of people in those site however have one characteristic na hindi compatible sa 'kin.

The Party Animal

Nag-search ako sa wikipedia kung saan nagmula ang concept na party animal. pero walang kwenta ang result. Sa thefreedictionary.com sinabi na ang party animal ay isang tao na sobrang hilig magparty, at s/he goes to as many as possible.

Maraming party animal na proud. Makikita mo sa website nila that they "Live to Party" at "Work Hard and Party Harder". i'm not going to say its bad or its wrong. katulad nga ng sinabi ko sa taas, it will be just my personal biased preference.

You see, meron na akong isang daga (named - Mikki) who outlive two of his partners, isang myna bird (named BabyLoves) na lagi nag-che-cheer sa brother ko pag naglalaban kami sa videoke, isang askal na gray puppy (named BluEyes) na obviously kulay asul ang mata, 4 na nameless goldfishes na lumalangoy with a sharkfish and a janitorfish. (and R.I.P pla kay Fluffy and Fliffy, the two bunnies which one was helplessly devoured by a neighbor's dog, and which the other died out of grief).

our house is practically a zoo (not that i count myself as a monkey), and something tells me that adding a party-animal doesn't sound appealing.

Hindi ko gusto ng partner na uubos ng sahod sa isang party (na kahit scraps ng chichiria walang madadala para kay Mikki), napapaligiran ng taong bangag sa coccaine or ecstasy, at uuwi ng lasing, susuka at magkakalat, matutulog maghapon, at iritable pag-gising.

I admit i experience that (except the drug and smokes). I admit it is nice. Addictive.

Pero tulad ng isang pagkain, Partying is the icing on a cake. Matamis. Pero hindi nakakabusog. Mapapasayaw ka, mawawala sa sarili, sa ingay ng musika, but it deafened the silence of your Soul. Maraming kulay, liwanag, at mga mukhang maganda sa paningin, but it blinds you to the beauty of sunrise, or the smiles of the people who truly matters.

O siguro talagang probinxano lang ako at heart. Pero i still hold on to my preference. Ok lang ang gumigimik, pero ayoko sa gimikero. I already have lots of animals.

Who would need a high(er)-maintennance one?

n_n

Bagong Taon ay Magbagong Buhay

Break muna tayo sa "Basic Rights" Series. For the benefit of those whose missing Kwentong Miko, eto na muna. n_n

Bagong Taon (Trivia muna)
Yes, you might say i'm joining the New-Year-Whatever (resolution, goals, etc.) pero parang ganon na nga. Traditionally, dapat March ang New-Year-Whatever dahil nung unang panahon (Old Roman Calendar), March ang start ng Bagong Taon (kaya ang September ay pang seven, ang October ay pang-eight, and so on and so forth).

Nang mamuno ang mga consul ng Rome, pina-uso ni Julius Caesar ang Julian Calendar nung 47BC. Ginawang unang buwan ang January (na pang 11 month dapat). At nang mag-expand ang West, pati ang ibang parte ng mundo ay nagpa-uto na ang New Year nga ay January 1. Taong 1600 nang makigaya ang Scotland, 1700 naman nakisali ang Russia at ang pahuli-huling bansa na naki-uso ay ang Thailand nuong 1941.

Miko's New Year Traditions
Required sa family ko na mag-spent ako ng New Year sa bahay hangga't hindi pa ko nag-aasawa. At dahil hindi pa legal sa Pilipinas ang magpakasal sa mga pinalad na taong katulad ko, mukang i'll be spending every New Year with my family. hehehe.

Isa sa personal tradition ko ang paggawa ng Dreams List o listahan ng mga pangarap. Usually, i maintain a 100+ Dreams per year. Ito ang mga bagay na gusto kong mabili, mga lugar na mapuntahan, o mga eksena na gusto kong ma-experience. Some are grand (magkaroon ng sariling building) and some are trivial (matulog sa damuhan ng isang restricted area hehehe). Some are long range (own 3 business before i turn 30) and some are almost routine (4 campings this year).

Last year (2008), I made a lot of progress. Mejo umangat ng konti ang Net Worth ko. I finished one semester earning valuable knowledge (wala akong paki sa grades, hehehe, mas mahalaga ang natutunan). I added two never-been-to places (Pangasinan and Cabanatuan) on my Tour Belt. and finally "coming-out" to my father (more on that next time) for my Family-Related Area. hehehe.

Partial List of 2009 Dreams
1. Start Dating. This year, matatapos na ang ZERO DATING GOAL yyuuhhhuuu!!! wwaahhh. nakakaiyak. hahaha. konting buwan na lang ng pagtitiis. hahaha. yung mga naghihintay jan (kapal), get ready na. hahaha.

2. Publish 4 Magazines. hehehe. eto part job, part personal. n_n I will do my best to publish magazines catered to specific group.

3. Raise net worth 20% of current value. hala. hahaha. this is on business side. hehehe, para may bala pag nakikipag-date

4. Four campings. Naka dalawa lang ako last year. gusto ko apat for this year. and in related area, i will add another (at least) 2 places on my Tour Belt. hehehe

5. Put up a non-profit org to develop business proficiency of some college students. hahaha. baka sa susunod, world peace na. hahaha.

6. Blog at least 2x a week!!! sorry sa mga uber-delays. pero i'll do my best talaga to post more often now.

well, that's all for now. secret na ung iba. hehehe


till next time na lang ulit. belated happy holidays!!! cheers!

The Right To Grow

Ito ang Unang Right, but it doesn't mean other (following) rights are inferior. Check this Preamble for intro, continue reading for explanation of this right.

Both partners must allow
Each other the freedom to grow
Even that freedom
Is a threat to the relationship

Pag pinipigilan ng isang partner na makamit ang fullest potential ng other party, pinapakawala nito ang pinaka “undermining force” sa isang relationship. Parang sinasabi nya: Dapat kang manatili kung sino mang gusto ko na maging ikaw. You must always stay the same. Ang purpose mo sa buhay ay kung ano man ang tingin ko dito. And your growth is a threat to me.

Ang paglalagay ng restrictions sa pagyabong ng kapareha mo ay isang malaking pagkakamali. Relationship should be a place where two people share the experience of helping each other become more than they were when their relationship started. Hindi ito kulungan. Hindi hostage ang partner, at hindi ransom ang Love na ginagamit na kondisyon as long as the other party stays the same.

And loving is not just permitting, tolerating, understanding and supporting. Sabi nga ni St. Exupery, “love is leading you gently back to yourself”. You should love NOT ONLY what the other is, but also what he can BECOME.

Pag naramdaman mo na may parte ka ng sarili mo na gustung-gusto mo pero napipilitan kang itago sa partner mo, then the relationship is in serious trouble. Hindi ba masakit, ang masabihan ka ng kapareha mo na “Pinigilan mo akong maging Ako.”

Threatening man sa simula, helping your partner grow and find himself always makes a relationship stronger. Ang partner ay magiging less dependent and less possessive. Mananatili sila sa relationship kasi gusto talaga nila na magsama. Kahit na malaya at may karapatan sila na magtagal o umalis, pinili nila na manatili and to grow old together.

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For R.M., hindi ako in-luv, hehehe, just sharing what i have that you want to learn. Photocredits to imShrimp from deviantart.

Basic Rights - Preamble

Wala. I surfed and checked, pero hindi ko makita ang hinahanap ko.

Siguro nabaon na sa limot, or possibly outdated na at hindi na applicable sa ngayon. But I don’t want to lose it in antiquity. Kahit for record purposes lang, gusto kong ma-retain ang mga concepts na ‘to.

I’m talking about the “Basic Rights” sa isang relationship. Hehehe, being single, I know I’m not in the position to discuss these things. Nevertheless, I believe the messenger is not important, only the message.

There are Ten (10) Basic Rights in a Relationship. I will discuss nine, and hope everyone will find out the tenth without me telling it. n_n It will be in a series, starting with this preamble.

So, letsgedidong!

Everyone's Basic Rights

Lahat tayo tao (maliban sa iba jan, joke!) and that simple fact makes us heir to the noblest aspirations, basest instincts, ang ma-attract sa kagandahan, potensyal na manakit o gumanti, at ang kapasidad na magmahal at magsakripisyo.

Lahat tayo ay ipinanganak ng may pare-parehas na karapatan. At atin ang karapatang ito whether we assert them or not, mag-isa man o meron tayong karelasyon. Ito ay natural na karapatan, and our claim to them is our life itself at ang paniniwala natin sa pagkakapantay-pantay. Our right to express and satisfy our rights always depends upon our respect for the rights of others.

Hindi mo pwedeng pwersahin ang isang tao na isuko ang karapatan nya, kahit minsan, nasusukol mo sya. Ang tao lang na pwedeng magsuko ng karapatan ay yung taong nagmamay-ari nito. Ang pagsukong iyon ay dapat panandalian lang. Isang part ng “give and take” sa isang balanseng relasyon.

Pag tuluyan nating isuko ang karapatan natin para sa ibang tao, we only violate ourselves, become less of a person and in the end undermine the relationship itself. Laging may bayad ang pagsuko ng karapatan. At kung isinuko mo ito ng hindi bukal, o napwersa ka lang labag sa gusto mo, kadalasan meron lihim na hinanakit. It’s a pain that always comes from giving away a part of ourselves we need in order to feel like a complete human being.

Ang matagal na kinikimkim na hinanakit dahil sa natapakang karapatan ay nagiging lihim na negatibong pwersa na naghahanap ng paglahad. Dumadaloy ito sa relasyon, kumakapit sa mga walang kwentang pagtatalo, pinalalaki ang maliit na galit at dinudungisan ang anumang maganda.

Ang mga karapatan sa isang relasyon ay ang parehas na karapatan na tinatamasa mo bago mo pa man nakilala ang kapareha mo. Hindi bina-bargain ang karapatan. They simply exist.

Isa sa tungkulin ng relasyon ay makilala at maprotektahan ang karapatan ng bawat isa.

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Pahinga muna ang kwentong miko, hehehe, lets talk about L-O-V-E para meron tayong ibigay sa pasko. n_n Thanks to R.M. for inspiring me to write this, and photocredits for fading-lily from deviantart.