Sunday, June 21, 2009

Conversations with Pop

In the spirit of Father's Day, I'm going to share to you amusing conversations with my father.

(August 5 2006)
[during drinking sessions after he arrived from abroad.]
pop: nak, eto may pera ako, pandagdag sa kasal nyo ni -----
me: huh! (shocked) hindi ba sinabi sa inyo ni mama na hindi na tuloy ang kasal? break na kami ni ----- at wala na me planong mag-asawa?
pop: ha? anong break? anong hindi na mag-aasawa? gusto na namin ng apo.
me: pa, 23 pa lang ako. pero kung gusto nyo na talaga ng apo, eh di igagawa ko kayo, basta bahala kau sa kanya.
pop: ayoko naman ng bastardo. pakasalan mo ung babae.
me: e di pakasalan. basta after non, kayo ng bahala. hehehe.
pop: ano ka ba naman.

[pause. after a few minutes]
pop: may kasamahan ako. umiiyak. nalaman nya kasi lahat ng anak nyang lalaki, puro bakla.
me: huh?
pop: sabi ko sa kanya, ano pa bang magagawa mo? e di tanggapin mo na lang.
me: [smiled only]
pop: baka naman ganon ka kaya ayaw mong mag-asawa?
me: [just laugh out loud]

(February 2008)
[over a long table for dinner, where we both sit on the opposite ends, he kinda shouted for me to hear)
pop:  kahit ako na ang magpapalaki, bigyan mo lang ng chocolate per month yung magiging apo ko, masaya na kami.
me:  [kinda shouting to, not because of the distance but because i'm sligthly pissed off he always bring around that topic] nasasabi nyo yan kasi malakas pa kayo, pero pagtanda nyo, ipapasa nyo rin sa kin ang responsibility.
pop: [almost down to a whispher now, meant for those sitting around him] hay, ayaw talaga akong gawan ng apo ng anak ko...
me: [almost a whispher to, just for my mom, sis and aunt whom i'm out] pano naman ako magkakaanak, yung nakakasex ko walang matris?
[the laughters around me earned as a confused look from my father]

Around september, nalaman na rin ni Pop na, i'm, uhm, different.  And for almost 3 months, cold war kami.  Gladly, i have a place of my own, and the regular visits i get to give them trickled only to coincidence (where he's not around).

Christmas Time 2008, my mom asked me to spend it with them (which is unussual since they respect me being an atheist).  And when she said Pop is expecting me, i told to myself "finally, letsgedidong!".

(Xmas Time 2008, ussual inuman setting, i brought wine and kinda tipsy already.  Together with me and Pop is my younger brother)
pop:  Matitiis ba kita, eh anak kita [i didn't even recall how it came up]
me:  Buti naman, dahil kilala nyo naman ako na mapride.  i'm willing to face disownment for what i believe i am.
pop:  Jan nga lang ako bumibilib sayo, kahit minsan pakiramdam ko wala sa lugar:
bro: Tama na nga yan.  Paskong pasko nagdadramahan kayong mag-ama.

A large part of me, i had from my father, and its not only the genes.

Simula pagkabata ko hanggang ngaun, isang beses nya lang akong napalo (that's another story), thus he modeled to us patience and non-violence, kahit gigil na gigil na sya at inuugat na sa kunsimisyon.

He showed us how family matters, and with personal sacrifices he made, he proved to us that it does.  Kahit ipagpalit nya ang kalahati ng angkan nya.  Madaming beses ko ng sinabi sa kanya ng personal ito, pero gagawin kong permanente d2 sa blog:

"Pa, saludo ako sa inyo,
at kung sakali... kung sakali lang ha,
gagawa ako ng sariling pamilya,
papalakihin ko ang mga anak ko,
gaya g pagpapalaki nyo sa amin!"
-------------Miko, Conversations with my Father

Finally, hindi sya tollerating ng mga bad ways, pero he kept his distance for us to learn and to grow on our own, always ready to support us once we made a mistake.  He let me be Me.

So again, to you Pop, Happy Father's Day!

Sunday, June 14, 2009

My May to June Travels




Eto ang reason kung bakit ang tagal kong offline
sobrang busy sa trabaho
hehehe

Malaya na Ako

Malaya Na Ako!!!

Pusang-gala, parang mapapaluha ako,
kahapon, March 26, 2009, natapos na rin ang Zero Dating Goal for One Year ko!!!! taena! n_n heheh, ano kayo ngaun?! Kala nyo di ko kakayanin. n_n

Para sa mga hindi ko fans, recent visitors or first timers (bakit ngaun lang kayo) na hindi pa nakakaalam kung bakit ako tinopak na magpursigeng maging single sa loob ng isang taon, check this;


Five Things I Learned From Not Dating
by: Lt. Miko Legaspi, PN (Palaging Nagtatago)
Task Force Single


5. Maraming Productive Alternatives

Sa pamamagitan ng hindi pakikipagdate, marami ka palang pwedeng mapalang kapakipakinabang na bagay. Nakapaglunsad ako ng isang malaking project (June). Nakapagdesign (september) launched (october) at administered (to present) ng isang website. Nakapagcoordinate ng events (july homecoming, november 3 schools party, january fun run). Nakaattend ng mga occassions (2 lamay at 17 na kasal). Nakapaglibot (november boracay, february japan). nakapagbasa ng 20+ na books. naging president ng isang non-profit org (january to present). nakapagpanimula ng extension service sa 2 orphanage (february). napagbati ang mga naggiyerang bansa, nameet ang mga bagong presidente at napigilan ang global warming (imbento ko na lang yung 3 yun, hehehe).

the point is, lahat tayo ay may 24 hours a day. spending it on something means denying that same Time (and resources and energy) from something else.

4. Maging Matino.

Sa mga nakakakilala sa kin at mga nakakaalam ng “adventures” ko, grabe, anlaki ng pagbabago. Kung dati i have 2 shags a week (na kadalasan pa ay magkaibang tao), naka 4 shags lang ako (total 5 if you consider buko juice as shag) for the past 350+ days! imagine that!!! That is only 3% of my minimal annual quota. hahaha. Ganon ka-effective ang Strategic Plan ko kung pano umiwas. For my guide, visit this.

para sa mga nag-iisip na shag=date, i would argue there’s a big difference, but it merits a blog of its own, kaya hindi ko na ididiscuss on this entry.

3. There is A Stage!

Natutunan ko rin (actually, na-apply ko ang old-aged-lesson) about stages. sabi dito, may mga stages na hinahakbangan ang maturity. like baby stage, puberty, teenage, etc. pagnilampasan mo raw ang isang stage (halimbawa, teenager ka pero super concentrate ka sa trabaho), maari mong naising balikan ang stage na yun kahit hindi na appropriate sa edad mo.

isang example nito ang mga superjutanders na gimik pa rin ng gimik halos araw-araw. tapos sila pa ang mahilig makipag-away pag hindi sila bumebenta. i really think if they want to sell, they should sit on their rocking chairs at home and write novels. hehehe. mean!

in my case, i believe nakagraduate na ko sa Gimik mode. i realized the difference ng gumigimik sa gimikero. kaya nakakapagpadagdag ng pagiging good boy ko (or simpleng workaholic lang), hehehe.

2. Mataas Talaga ang Pride

Isa sa pinakamalaking motivation ko para matapos ang Zero Dating Goal ay ang pride ko. Walang naniniwala (except those na kilala na ko for more than 10 years) na kakayanin kong hindi makipagdate sa loob ng isang taon. Nyehehehe. Who’s laughing now (beaming with pride). n_n

They say Pride is a Sin. pero i don’t think so. Pag hindi ka nakipagbati sa kaaway mo dahil kasalanan nya, that’s pride. Pag hindi ka nakipag-ayos kahit kasalanan mo, that’s arrogance. Pag ngumiti ka kahit nasasaktan, showing grace despite of defeat, that is pride. Pride motivates you to defend your dignity and honor, to keep going kahit alam ng lahat na nahihirapan ka, and to protect yourself sa mga mananakit sau. that is Pride. just make sure you are not mistaking it from something else.

1. Kaya Kong Mag-Commit.

Finally, ito ang pinakamalaking lesson (actually, proof) that i can commit. May mga taong dumating while i’m on my goal. And some of them are really worthy. Yung isa nga, when he arrived, nasabi ko na “syet, ito na yata ang taong makakapagpabago sa Zero Dating Goal ko”. Check this

“There is no chance, no destiny, no fate
that can circumvent or hinder or control
the firm resolve of a determined soul”
————-Ella Wilcox, Miko’s Kollected Kuotes

Tiniis ko sya, sobra. Ngayon, may bf na sya. Wahahaha! Inggit ako. Pero ganon talaga. By knowing i can resist someone, means that i can do it again pag commited na ako tapos may mga bagong susulpot. My would-be partner will be secured in knowing hindi ako maagaw ng kahit sino. hehehe.

Ang kalaban ko na lang ay inertia.  Parang i've been alone for so long i'm comfortable with it.  T_T

Pero kailangan na, hehehe.  Sino kaya ang idi-date ko?

n_n


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this is a repost from my Downelink account dated March 27, 2009
right after my Zero Dating Goal was achieved
sorry ngaun ko lang napost d2.  hehehe